Well, folks, I have four nights left in Indiana, PA, before I bid it adieu and return to my beloved SF.
It is this ending of things that makes me somewhat nostalgic, as in I will actually miss Indiana, a little. I'll definitely miss the warm summer temperatures. I don't even know why I am bothering to send my shorts and tank tops home. Oh, I know: it is wishful thinking. I will really miss Caffe Amadeus, with its quiet and free wireless and non-attitudinal/non-sullen-hipster employees. I missed the Coventry Inn last year, and will again, especially their scallops, and I will miss Reeger's farm dinners, which really are more about local and sustainable than some restaurants that wear that mantle in SF. As much as the small town-ness annoys me, I'll also miss that, too: how everything I need is within a ten minute bike ride. I might even miss Wal Mart. Or, not.
I am leaving this summer exactly as I wanted to. I feel totally confident in proceeding with my dissertation, at least with the first three chapters. I have a plan, a schedule, a method for attacking the readings. On Friday, my first full day at home, I am going to go to the UC Berkeley main library, pay the 100 bucks for a CA resident card, and check out a month's worth of books. On Saturday, I will begin my quest to find the ideal cafe to work in- not too loud, wireless a plus, nice employees- does this mythical place exist in the land of internet worker nomads?
I am also leaving this summer with the knowledge that I can do this without my dad, though I miss him at every turn. Not that there was any doubt, but in the past months since his death I've wondered if I was doing this for him, because this is the route I think he wished he'd taken, the life of the scholar and academic over the life of the lawyer and recreational theologian he became. He was always proud of me, and whether I did this work or went into business wouldn't have mattered to him, as long as I was happy and felt my work was my vocare, my calling. But, but, our love of academia and scholarship and asking questions about things that may or may not have answers, answers that we can understand: it is his fault I am like this, we used to joke. But he is still proud, and even as I type this I can hear it in his voice and feel it in the recesses of the heart where only these things that are true with a capital T can be felt and understood.
So, this summer I have realized that who I am in academia has everything to do with my dad and our relationship, but also that I can do this on my own, and in doing so, I honor all of him that is in me. Which is exactly what he would have wanted. And still does. And will always.